As you know if you know me, or may have gathered if you don’t know me but have ever stumbled upon this blog before, I’m a very laid-back person. I don’t get riled easily, I don’t follow controversy, I HATE confrontation, and I’m not a fan of debate. (which brings back terrible grade school memories, ick)
For this reason I rarely discuss hot-button topics, here or in my non-internet life – politics, religion, etc. But there is one topic which gives people fits that I just don’t get – homosexuality.
What the?? I can hear many eyeballs putting on the brakes right now. And that’s ok. Like I said, I know this is a very hot-button topic, sometimes scalding actually. And kind of out of left field since lately I’ve been talking mainly about being pregnant here.
But I read an excellent post by Glennon over at Momastery today, and it got me thinking. And agreeing.
What’s the big deal if someone is gay?
I just don’t understand it. How can that possibly determine their worth as a person? Does one’s sexuality really serve as a legitimate foundation for judging every other quality about them, usually without even knowing them personally? Their work ethic, their morals, their overall ability to simply be a contributing, functioning human being?
And why, too, should that be the determining factor in what rights they are given? The right to marry, the right to have children, the right to actually be happy like the rest of us “normal” people (please know that i mean that in the most sarcastic way possible. gay or straight certainly does not determine normality in a person. actually, what does? who’s the standard for “normal”? uh-oh, there’s another whole post…)?
Again, I just don’t get it. Call me liberal, call me anti-religion (which i kind of am. not like i hate god and all organized religion, but i just don’t have a very strong religious lifestyle), call me crazy, but being gay certainly does not make a person unworthy of the love and happiness a straight person has. Hell, I know a lot of gay people who are infinitely happier than many straight people I know.
I really hope I can raise our children to be tolerant, no not even tolerant but unquestionably accepting, of this also. Besides her absolute safety, the 1 thing I want D to know above all else (well, and Dv2.0 now too) is that she can come to us at absolutely any time, anywhere, with anything, and know that we will never love her any less. Yes, we may be severely disappointed and possibly heart-broken, but we’ll never not love her.
You’re gay? So what! You got a tatto? So what (as long as you were 18 and it was legal)! You’re pregnant? Umm, well not so what, but we’re definitely not going to abandon you. You’re in jail? Ok, so maybe my “so what” answer wouldn’t work for everything, but I could never stop loving her. Yes I’d be beyond pissed and trying to imagine the worst punishment she’d ever endured, but the love would always be there.
So I guess this is just a long way of saying why is being gay such a big deal? Love whoever you want to love. Be happy.
Amen!! I’ve always felt the same way. I grew up loving my diverse theater family in various productions (met the hubs in one!) and I think that may have helped me simply accept that everyone is different. How boring would life be if we were all the same? Yet, there are still big bible pounders (including my own mother) who will *sigh* and walk away when I turn on Ellen (of all people to judge?!) and will hang up on me when I mention that a friend of mine works for Planned Parenthood. (true story!) It’s a shame that the closed-minded folks in our society put a damper on so many incredible things this world has to offer.
Great post!!
@mommaneedsabeer Thanks, Kelli! I know – like I said, I just don’t get it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being gay. I will never understand the logic of those who feel otherwise. I don’t know why, in the year 2012, it is even still an issue. Why isn’t society accepting of all by now? Mind-boggling actually. Life would be SOOO boring if we were all alike. I mean seriously, a million mes running around?? Dear lord, no! 😉
Couldn’t agree more! Glad you decided to go out on the controversy limb ; )
And yea, prison…big deal. lmao
@aliwayout Hahahaha – right! Prison, shmrison. 😉 Thanks, Alexia!
Amen Scooter!!
@Scroogy Thank you!
Very well put, Scoot. So much of life is wasted fussing about things that are truly meaningless. Remember one of The Rules: Be nice. Most people, unfortunately, are not. And what’s with all the judging that most people feel compelled to do: is there nothing more important to do? Boring.
@Frank Picl Exactly. Thanks, Dad. Be nice, Have fun, and No slamming fingers in the doors. Right?
@_ScooterMarie
Have fun, be safe, be nice. When did I ever slam your fingers in a door?
Sing it, sister! Great perspective and I totally agree. Good for you for putting this out there!
@deannabe1 Thanks, Deanna!